5.07.2012

On My Wedding and Such

Many of you have asked for a wedding update and a wedding update you shall receive! If you've followed my blog since my engagement this past December, you know that the whole wedding planning process has not been all rainbows and butterflies for me. {As evidenced in this post} It is hard planning a wedding without your mom and bridesmaids nearby. I honestly think that is the root of all my emotions/hyperventilation/anxiety/anger/unproductively revolving around the wedding planning. I need my mommy. And my girlfriends. Simple as that.   

AND, I'd like to add that you girls who genuinely enjoyed planning your wedding are probably borderline  nuts...just saying...

So yeah, wedding planning...I really don't know how the let's move up our wedding by four months conversation began. I'm pretty sure I was simply musing a loud to my mother on the phone one evening about how it would be nice, since Steven and I already purchased a home, to be married soon after I moved in. That way, I wouldn't have to live alone in our home for 6 months {because really, where's the fun in that!}. And she said something to the effect of WHY NOT? Why not just move the wedding up, why not get married in the summer when people have vacation time rather than the fall, why not get married on the east coast so everyone that I love can afford to attend, why not live in the home I purchased with my fiancĂ© 4 months sooner, why not do something spontaneous for once.

Those two words, why not, threw my mind into a frenzy. Really, what is the point of all the stress, financial strain, and waiting when we simply could get married sooner? This summer. Be man and wife. Why not...

So, naturally, I panicked. I wanted so bad to just through all my planning away and start from scratch. I knew the perfect location on the east coast and quickly called my uncle. Hey uncle jay, you know how much I love you, and you love me, I'm your favorite niece remember. And really it would mean so much to me if you could, if there is anyway, I'd really love it if, but I understand if not, but would you please allow me, canIgetmarriedatyourlakehousethissummer?!?!?!

Of course, Uncle Jay said yes. I can get married at his house, which nestles right on Lake Ontario in upstate New York, this summer. July 7th. I will be Mrs. Danielle Turner.

And so now, a new wedding is under works, and I am much, much happier. The planning is no longer something I dread {don't get me wrong, as a perfectionist it is still unsavory at times, but no longer a nightmare}. And everything has fallen into place so perfectly I just know it is meant to be.

For example, one of my bridesmaids was not going to be able to make the trip out to Seattle due to financial reasons {coast to coast travel is not cheap, my friends}. Now, not only can she attend my wedding, but she is going to be my wedding photographer! Whether she is by my side or behind the camera's lens, I really don't care. I am just thrilled to have her there. And many more close family and friends who couldn't make it to Seattle are now able to attend! My heart is soaring with happiness at this! What is the point of a wedding if you aren't surrounded by those you love?? It is better to save some dough and simply elope. 

Also, concerning the deposits I had already paid for the venue and photographer in Seattle. Got them all back. Yep. Every stinkin' penny. How sweet are they! Under the signed contracts, no one was obligated to return any of my money, and yet, everyone did. So Steven and I are not out one penny. Instead I've gained a peace of mind and a happy, happy heart and he's gained a happy fiancé, which, let's face it, makes his life A MUCH better one.

More updates to come! Happy Monday!


12 comments:

Cara said...

Good for you! I'm happy to hear that- you don't want it to be something that you dread- its your wedding! It should be ALL about what you want and how you want it. I hope from now until the day, that you can enjoy every last second of it and really have the wedding planning experience that you should. Congrats again and enjoy it all now!

k8te said...

that's amazing that you got all your deposits back, how sweet of all your vendors! have fun planning, i'm glad it's all falling in to place. i'm on of those crazy ppl who enjoyed the planning ;)

Callie {YouDontEvenKnow} said...

Woohoo!!! What a perfect way to start a marriage. With the support of your family and with peace and happiness. Congrats to you guys and your spontaneous decision :)

Where is Steven's family located? Can they make it to the east coast?

sea to shining port said...

Yay! I'm so happy it's all worked out, and you're feeling good with all the planning. How fun!!! And a summer wedding on the lake, perffect!

Caitlin

poptartyogini said...

Why not is right. Good for you for being proactive and save yourself some stress. My dad always said that I'd get X number of money for a wedding and double it if I'd elope. I think he was kidding. I had the wedding anyway.

Mrs Independent said...

Sometimes when it's right, it's right! So glad everything is coming together for you :) I've totally been where you're at.

thecoffeehouse said...

this makes me happy. so glad the planning is no longer "dreadful". I remember that feeling, but it should absolutely be exciting and fun. yay!

The Not Quite Military Wife said...

This post made me shutter to think of my wedding planning lol. Seriously, how does anyone enjoy it!!! So glad you found a solution that works and that you can somewhat enjoy all the stress to come!!

Alexis @ Christian WifeStyle said...

Glad everything is working out well! :)

Chelsea said...

So happy for you that it's all worked out! It totally should be something that you are enjoying planning, it shouldn't be something you hate! Hope you have the beautiful wedding of your dreams XO

Amira said...

This is all such great news!!! I am so happy for you guys Danielle :-) When you've found who you want to spend forever with you want forever to start right away!

Rustic Living said...

I'm so happy for you Danielle! And I'm so glad its worked out beautifully to move the wedding date up! Especially that you got your deposits back, thats amazing! So excited for you to be married and live with your soon to be hubby, its the best!