tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6500076921577060476.post3662808766989273781..comments2023-10-11T01:37:14.259-07:00Comments on Taking Notes...Coast to Coast: Being Real: My Hormonal, Pregnancy StugglesDanielle http://www.blogger.com/profile/14472582071045116526noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6500076921577060476.post-23028756641074113592013-11-15T06:59:08.068-08:002013-11-15T06:59:08.068-08:00I guess it happens and it's usual too..though ...I guess it happens and it's usual too..though I can't say as I don't exactly how it feels to be pregnant..it still amazes me..but it's also an experience and you are gonna miss this hyper hormones...:)<br />Take care..:)Namratahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12820835864095505007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6500076921577060476.post-41349773581267751312013-11-14T14:43:47.334-08:002013-11-14T14:43:47.334-08:00From my extensive experience around new moms, that...From my extensive experience around new moms, that protective instinct is absolutely normal. One friend only let her 5 most trusted female friends hold her baby for the first 2 years of her life- if she needed a break, she'd hand her baby off to us, but no one else was allowed near. Paranoid? Maybe. But also...a mother's instincts are a powerful thing...and it wasn't detrimental to her baby to only be held by the five of us (or mom, dad, or grandparents).<br /><br />As for the advice about raising, I'm sorry to say that total strangers often feel the right to ask intensely personal questions about your pregnancy and how you plan to raise your child. It's definitely OK to politely tell them to mind their own beeswax- I think most times they don't realize that your baby is your business, not community property. But I can almost guarantee you that at least one person you don't know is going to ask about breastfeeding/bottlefeeding (and offer their opinion), at the very least. Good luck.Beth Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01898921671895123053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6500076921577060476.post-57644599959098660592013-11-13T23:37:40.064-08:002013-11-13T23:37:40.064-08:00My husband and I have decided when we move in Janu...My husband and I have decided when we move in January, we would like to start a family. Therefore, I am not pregnant, yet have the same feelings as you. Let's get real, giving birth may be one of the most "disgusting" beautiful moments in my life. I'm not sure I even want my husband there, let alone anyone else (kidding.. kinda... I'll let him be there). Since we live so far away from family, I fear we won't just have visitors, but over night guest. This terrifies me. I love that our families are so involved, but I think I would prefer to bring a baby home without an audience. Does this make me a terrible person? So to answer your question, you are not alone. I am not even expecting and already going crazy with these thoughts. At least you have hormones as an excuse (but in my opinion, you don't need one, those thoughts are justified in my book!!!). If you are worried about not letting anyone else hold your new bundle of joy, just remember how proud you are going to be of your newest family member, show that baby off (after proper sanitizing!!!). -Heather-https://www.blogger.com/profile/09781535892909009135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6500076921577060476.post-51124118636416898132013-11-13T22:44:14.663-08:002013-11-13T22:44:14.663-08:00This is all so normal! I remember the last couple ...This is all so normal! I remember the last couple months when I was pregnant were really hard for me. Every morning when John left for work I would cry because I felt so lonely and sad that he wasn't home with me, even though most of the time I had friends coming over later. I also cried over just about everything, even just spilling something on the floor had me tearing up. It's just pregnancy hormones. Even now, after three years, I can get strangely emotional over the littlest things. But, it does get better so hang in there. Kenzie Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17331352267901661256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6500076921577060476.post-38256766466816698832013-11-13T20:47:24.026-08:002013-11-13T20:47:24.026-08:00I know exactly what you mean! I was extremely emo...I know exactly what you mean! I was extremely emotional with my first (thankfully the hormonal emotions have been much more manageable for the second and now third). I would cry for no reason, cry because I wanted to be a good mom, cry because I was afraid I wouldn't be. I wish I could say it got better right away after he was born, but breastfeeding hormones can almost be worse. But eventually you will start to feel normal again! Also, if your family is understanding about it, don't feel badly about wanting time to yourself. Be understanding that people want to meet your new baby, because the only reason they do is because they love YOU so much! But don't be afraid to say no to visitors (in a nice way) if you need a little more time. I know all the visitors in the beginning can be overwhelming, and I've often wished I could just be by myself with my baby for the first couple days, but that usually isn't an option, and I realize it's nice that people care. Because then it hurts your feelings if people don't want to come and meet the baby! Oh, hormones . . . pray alot. ;-)Calliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04177545285954715021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6500076921577060476.post-14092553827943803412013-11-13T15:58:01.594-08:002013-11-13T15:58:01.594-08:00All of this is TOTALLY NORMAL! If I remember corr...All of this is TOTALLY NORMAL! If I remember correctly, I think i was feeling the same hormonal way during the same part of the second tri. It only lasted a week or so, and then I started feeling great hormonally, and crappy physically. No matter how you look at it, pregnancy is HARD. The whole process. And your feeling to want to keep baby just to yourself- also TOTALLY NORMAL. I felt the same exact way all throughout my pregnancy. It's my baby, after all. However, you never know how you'll feel after baby gets here. I had a really long labor and was so exhausted I honestly feel like it prevented my from bonding with baby entirely. That, and the postpartum blues- but I won't get into that. 10 days later, I am so thankful for all the help that I received and still receive should I need it. Basically, be selfish if that's what you need. It's your time and your baby. Until his arrival, enjoy this time (I know, easier said than done). I was so anxious to go into labor and meet my little man (again, a totally normal feeling), that I didn't fully enjoy those last day of just me and my fiance. Days that I will never have again until baby it all grown up. Also, sleep as much as possible. Just sleep sleep sleep (can you tell i miss my sleep, LOL). Last, you're not crazy. You are growing a small human, that's hard work.jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07353964050059215116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6500076921577060476.post-61734596398395912182013-11-13T15:19:59.627-08:002013-11-13T15:19:59.627-08:00Danielle, rest easy. You're very normal. ;) Yo...Danielle, rest easy. You're very normal. ;) You're also very wise...because turning to Him is the best thing you could possibly do. Perfect scripture you included. Sorry I haven't kept up with your pregnancy journey much (my life is crazy busy - hello...three kids among other things...lol), but I just looked over and saw your have Instagram? Duh. Why didn't I think of that? Gonna go find you. ;)Gail@Sophisticated Stepshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17173434362142173898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6500076921577060476.post-18253628074440905312013-11-13T14:23:18.120-08:002013-11-13T14:23:18.120-08:00I can DEFINITELY relate to how you are feeling. I...I can DEFINITELY relate to how you are feeling. I told my husband long before I was pregnant that when we did have a baby, I would REALLY struggle with letting other people hold the baby. Even him. And it took me a while, but someone explained it really well to me that my baby NEEDS other people than just me. Sure he needs me. But he needs other people as well. He needs other people to love him and care about him. And one way that people build that love and bond with him is to hold him and love on him. I don't want to raise a Norman Bates kind of kid. I want him to be well adjusted, with a whole VILLAGE of people that love him almost as much (but never totally as much) as I love him.<br /><br />As for the crying and feeling overwhelmed, I really felt that too. Becoming a mother is REALLY hard. And I just now (almost 6 months after he was born) am starting to feeling like I am not drowning. But it does come. And it helps to talk to other people about it. And don't for a second feel guilty or ashamed about it. It's those stinkin' hormones!<br /><br />And the desire to protect him is REALLY good. The love and fear you have for your baby is awesome and all-consuming. Just think of it as a sign of what an awesome mom you will be. And when it feels REALLY overwhelming, try talking to your mom about it. Because she feels the exact same way about you.<br /><br />You're doing great!! Sorry for the novel. :)Natalie | Mrs. Janney |https://www.blogger.com/profile/18312142177721655450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6500076921577060476.post-18737726428272947062013-11-13T14:18:31.603-08:002013-11-13T14:18:31.603-08:00I can empathize with you all too well, friend. I t...I can empathize with you all too well, friend. I try to remind myself of truth when my emotions seems to take the reins of my life. Thanks for your honesty and this reminder!Jena Roachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16907336850903895530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6500076921577060476.post-19084783875066647212013-11-13T12:20:54.237-08:002013-11-13T12:20:54.237-08:00I understand you so much. My baby girl is almost 8...I understand you so much. My baby girl is almost 8 weeks and it's still difficult to let other people hold her, even her dad and i feel ashamed about that... I had to make big efforts when my mom, my dad or my sis came for a week from accross the country.<br />I'd like to spend every minute with her, i don't like when she sleeps too long, i secretly want to wake her up to hold her....<br />I don't know how to go back to work... I feel lucky because i have more than 12 weeks, but i don't know how i'll manage being far away from my girl, letting someone else be with her. What if she says her first word and i'm not there to hear it ? What about her first step ? All of this is so scary<br /><br />Good luck with all those feelings, they're mother feelings and we have to deal with them for the rest of our lives :-)<br /><br />Btw, i like your blog and don't leave a lot of comments, english is not my birth language...Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02273487929177743800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6500076921577060476.post-85438329218550118622013-11-13T11:05:37.388-08:002013-11-13T11:05:37.388-08:00I have to say that it takes a lot of courage to be...I have to say that it takes a lot of courage to be honest with yourself about your fears. I have not experienced being a mother yet, but I'm positive that you're not alone in your feelings. Protection is what a mother is there for and you're most likely feeling the weight of your responsibility. I believe you'll be pleasantly surprised at how those feelings will no longer frighten you in your future, but they will drive you to be the best mother possible (and who doesn't want to be that?!). <br /><br />I also think that the paint on the ceiling definitely got the better of you - I've been there! Sidneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03901986193888340782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6500076921577060476.post-84040225421680750372013-11-13T11:03:44.658-08:002013-11-13T11:03:44.658-08:00Hang in there! I have yet to get to experience all...Hang in there! I have yet to get to experience all of this that you are going through as I have not even gotten pregnant but I can relate with you in many ways as to the privacy part. I have the same desires for my little family when the time comes. I don't know if I even want my Mom in the delivery room with me before or immediately after, I just want it to be my husband and I. I will be praying for you and your husband.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15241082200664673556noreply@blogger.com